Friday, January 7, 2011

On the Other End of the Stick

So part of the Dark Days of Isaac last year was that Isaac was being aggressive with a classmate that he was being teased by. This aggression lead to a behavior plan and eventually to a his expulsion hearing, and attendance at Pioneer. So we know all about aggression, all about how hard it is for the child and his/her victim.


Now, Isaac is getting a new perspective. He is the victim of the aggression of a classmate at Alameda, and how he has handled this has been wonderful and heartbreaking.

G (the other boy), has a hard time. He has a hard time with impulse, controlling his feelings, and competition with other kids. You can see him struggling with it, and man, do I feel for him and his family. His mom has admitted that this continues at home, and maintaining friends and having play dates has been nigh impossible, and so exhausting that she has just stopped for the time being. The teachers are aware of it, and trying to manage it and keep Isaac and G separated as much as possible.

But they can't always be at a distance. This has been happening for a long time, and for the most part Isaac keeps away from G (and he is so proud of this - Isaac of last year would have hit back without considering the consequences). But since our return from Winter vacation, it has gotten to him. He has not hit G back, but instead has responded with tears and anxiety, announcing today that he "didn't want to go back to school until G goes away!" He is beginning to crack a bit, and our concern, and one that we shared with his teacher, is that he might lash out and end up back in a bad space.

What to do, what to do. What G really needs is a few months with with Mrs. Heidi at Pioneer, but there is no way I can say that to anyone. None of my business, right? Argh. Will have to contact Ms. Niki and ask what she thinks.

1 comment:

  1. So so tricky, K! I don't know what I would do! But your guy is handling it SO well! I think his bedtime chat with you in the previous post is amazing. I can't wait for those!