And don't feel bad for us. It isn't necessary. Go ahead and ask questions.
Whenever someone finds out about our ASD, there is that moment, that moment when they are deciding how to react. And to be honest, I have not been very consistent about my own reaction to them knowing. More often then not, reaction from teachers, doctors, friends and family has been "I'm Sorry". And I have swung wildly from defensiveness (I don't need your pity), to apologizing for making them feel bad for us.
I have settled for the moment on "Don't feel sorry. We are lucky". And I mean that, because in this journey I have seen children far more affected, families shredded, people living in a state of crisis day in and day out.
There is Autism, this very broad label, and there is OUR autism. Our own little version of it. The more I talk to other parents on the spectrum, I realize that everyone has their own version. Some seem worse than others, some are barely perceptible. What has helped me is to break down our autism, and analyze why certain aspects bother, while others scarcely register.
Yeah. I like lists. Am a list person.